Choosing your wedding music

..........a lovely set of 6 CDs, to help you choose

Musical Choice:

Disks 1-4 are for the ceremony; disks 5-6 for afterwards.

What's the rule?

Music matches the dignity of the occasion. (Practicalities)

Finding a Singer

Our own favourites, or just Google "wedding singers"

Selecting Songs

See "Lyrics"; (for suitable songs for the ceremony)



Places for music, in the wedding ceremony
.....** at least wherever is marked with **
.....++ optional, where marked with ++

.....** Entrance
.....++ Lighting the side-Candles
....** Psalm
.....++ Lighting the Wedding Candle
....
** Offertory
.....++ Our Father
.....++ Sign of Peace

.....** Communion
.....** Signing of the Register
.....** Recessional


Entrance

Maybe an organ anthem (eg the Wedding March, from Mendelsohn, Midsummer-Night's Dream) or one of the following:

Clarke - Trumpet Voluntary
Elgar - Salut d'Amour
Grieg - Morning (Pier Gynt)
Handel - Arrival of the Queen of Sheba
Vivaldi - Spring (4 Seasons)
Wagner - Bridal Chorus



Lighting the side-Candles

Bride and Groom each light a candle, to symbolise their intent to marry. There are two ways that this is handled:
(1) Immediately the bride arrives at the altar: just continue the Entrance Hymn until the candles are lit. or
(2) After the celebrant greets the congregation: In this case, it can be accompanied by something short and simple. Whatever is chosen can be echoed later, when the centre candle is lit after the marriage vows.

Gentle Instrumental of an evocative air (e.g. Wherever You Go; May the Road Rise, etc)



Psalm

Psalms were written to be sung – and there is a wealth of psalms and other suitable hymns to choose from for this point in the service. Alternatively, you may like to have the Psalm simply read at the service.

Like a Shepherd
'Sé an Tiarna M'Aoire
On Eagle’s Wings
Song of Service
Wherever You Go



Lighting the Wedding Candle (after the wedding-vows)
Bride and Groom jointly light the candle of union, while an instrumental is played: Continue the motif from the first part (e.g. additional bar from Wherever You Go; May the Road Rise, etc)



Offertory

Be aware that the length of time taken to bring up the gifts is short, so pick something of an appropriate length – a long solo here can cause an uncomfortable delay.
Ag Críost an Síol
Ave Maria
Ave Verum
Lord of All Hopefulness
I Will Be The Vine



Our Father
The Lord's prayer may be sung in English or Irish, preferably in a well-known melody that the congregation may join in.
 Ár n'Athair



Sign of Peace
The Bride & Groom usually leave the altar to exchange the Sign of Peace with their family & friends – and this can take a while! The best option is something with short verses, so that the singer or instrumentalists can keep going for as long as is needed.
Make me a channel of Your Peace
Bind us Together
Peace, Perfect Peace
Peace I leave with you



Communion

The best place in the service for longer hymns. You may actually need two hymns here, depending on the size of the wedding. Or you might have a hymn, followed by an instrumental:

Panis Angelicus
Ave Maria (Schubert)
The Cloud’s Veil (Lawton)
Laudate Dominum (Mozart)
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring
Wherever you go



Signing the Register

This is the point when the service is over, and songs of more secular nature can be introduced – although you should still check with the celebrant to ensure that the chosen songs are acceptable. There can be a lot of time to be filled in here, during the signing of the register and the taking of any photographs. However, it can also be a noisy time, and quite often the music won’t be heard over the congregation, especially if amplification is not being used for the musicians.
One Hand, One Heart
The Wedding Song
Perhaps Love
The Rose
She Moved through the Fair
Others on the Togetherness CD


Recessional
This can be an organ anthem or a musical piece by soloist or group.



Indoor Photographic Session
If it's raining outside at the end of the ceremony, a photo session is often organised inside the church. In such an event, music can continue to be played maintaining an atmosphere of celebration until the guests have left the church. Any of the airs from Disks 5 or 6 would be suitable for this purpose.

 


Practicalities:

  • Check your music choices with your celebrant, as some parishes are stricter than others in interpreting the guideline, that the music at weddings must be "suited to the dignity of the occasion." Frivolous pop-songs are best left until the reception, although a light, romantic air could be acceptable, during the Signing of the Register, after the service.

  • Consult with your singer(s) whether they wish to wish to sing from the sanctuary, the organ gallery or elsewhere. We recommend that, where possible, your musicians should be visible to the congregation, to emphasise that the music is "live".

  • Once you've selected what is to be sung, you might provide some of the lyrics within your wedding booklet, so that the congregation may join in if they so wish. (For lots of relevant wedding lyrics click here)

  • If the Responsorial Psalm is being sung, be sure that your first Reader knows this, and does not jump ahead into reading the Psalm, before your singer is ready to start!

 



The Wedding Song

He is now to be among you
at the calling of your hearts
Rest assured this troubadour
is acting on His part.
The union of your spirits, here,
has caused Him to remain
for whenever two or more of you
are gathered in His name
there is Love, there is Love.

Well, a man shall leave his mother
and a woman leave her home
and they shall travel on to where
the two shall be as one.
As it was in the beginning
is now and til the end
Woman draws her life from man
and gives it back again.
And there is Love, there is Love.

Well then what's to be the reason
for becoming man and wife?
Is it love that brings you here
or love that brings you life?
And if loving is the answer,
then who's the giving for?
Do you believe in something
that you've never seen before?
Oh there is Love, there is Love.

(Short solo)

Oh the marriage of your spirits here
has caused Him to remain
for whenever two or more of you
are gathered in His name
there is Love, there is Love.

Perhaps Love

Perhaps love is like a resting place, a shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort, it is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble when you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home

Perhaps love is like a window, perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer, it wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself and don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through

Love to some is like a cloud, to some as strong as steel
For some a way of living, for some a way to feel
And someone say love is holding on and some say letting go
And some say love is everything, and some say they don't know
Perhaps love is like the ocean, full of conflict, full of pain
Like a fire when it's cold outside, thunder when it rains
If I should live forever, and all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you